Pay It Forward

A Temporary Life

2008-01-19T15:17:00.000+03:00

We are passing through a test every second/minute/hour/day of our lives, see if you can notice what your tests were on the end of every period, and then see if you have made a reasonable reaction/choice each time you were faced with a test.

Tests of life are assessed through the reactions/choices that were made when faced with different situations.
For example:
- getting good/bad grades
- liking/disliking the food that was served
- having a calm/hyper kid
- being under / over weight
- dealing with the death of someone you know / care about
- getting sick / or being healthy
- being poor / rich
- hearing someone mentioning the prophet name
- listening / reading the Qur'an
- listening to the Athaan / praying / and knowing about the obligations of Islam
- living the happiest life
- being attacked verbally
- getting disappointed & frustrated with our parents / kids
- having free time with nothing to do / being over loaded with things to do
- willingness of doing something that would disappoint Allah
- getting fired / being hired in a great position

Those are only a few examples, and I know the list will go on and on …

Every choice and reaction we made has a certain affect on our lives…

The beauty of Islam is that it taught us what our reactions and choices should be when faced with anything. Islam guaranteed us that doing so would bring inner peace and happiness to our lives.

Islam is our manual to living this temporary life, and having a wonderful forever life thereafter.

Time passed is time gone forever, so let us always spend our time making reasonable choices / reactions to the things we face every second of our lives, in order to live happily in this life and the life thereafter.

Written by:

Reem Al Musallam

Decide What You Want

2008-01-04T05:25:00.000+03:00

In order to get what you want, you must first decide what you want. Most people really foul up at this crucial first step because they simply can't see how it's possible to get what they want -- so they don't even let themselves want it.
Don't sabotage yourself that way!
What scientists now know about how the brain works , and Islam have always known, is that you must first decide WHAT you want, then figure out HOW to get it. Once you lock-in your desires, your mind and god can step in.
Are you ready to get started?
Be Willing to Dream BIG, As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas in which you'll need to ask god for the support and take actions while believing that by doing so, God will make you dream come true. God will start sending you the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true.

As I've seen many times over, the outer symbols of success can all be easily lost. Houses burn down, companies go bankrupt, relationships end, cars get old, bodies age and fame wanes, but who you are, what you have learned, and the new skills you have developed never go away. These are the true prizes of success. Motivational philosopher, Jim Rohn advises that "You should set a goal big enough that in the process of achieving it, you become someone worth becoming."
Turn Your Dreams into Goals and Objectives, Once you are clear about what you want, you must turn each item into a measurable objective. By measurable, I mean measurable in space and time -- how much and by when. For instance, if you were to tell me that you wanted more money, I might pull out a dollar and give it to you, but you would probably protest, saying "No, I meant a lot more money -- like $20,000!" Well, how am I supposed to know unless you tell me? Similarly, your boss, your friends, your spouse, your brain -- can't figure out what you want unless you tell them specifically what it is. When it comes to God, he knows what is going on in your mind , but will only give you what you want when you are clear with what you want followed by the prayers & the belief that God will actually give you what you want.

What do you want -- exactly -- and when do you want it by?

Write your goals down in detail, and read your list of goals every day while asking God and following it with the belief that god will actually make you reach your goal. Then start taking required actions toward achieving your goals while keeping your eyes open to the "people / resources / incidences " that god might send you in order to help you achieve it.

Having a problem in deciding what are the actions required? try to close your eyes and focus on each goal and ask yourself, "What is one thing I could do today to move toward the achievement of this goal?" Write down your answers and take those actions.
I recommend writing down a minimum of 3 goals in each of the following 7 areas:

1. Financial Goals
2. Career/Business Goals
3. Free Time/Family Time
4. Health/Appearance Goals
5. Relationship Goals
6. Personal Growth
7. Making a Difference

To help your reticular activating system begin finding YOUR wants in unexpected places, take time now to decide what you want and start writing!
If you want help getting started, I have a handy worksheet for you that models this formula, including examples. Click here to download this free resource and start creating all that you want from your life this year.
Remember, don't hold back!

© 2008 Jack Canfield [ Edited by Reem "Included God + prayers + belief " as Islam have always taught us ]

Exploring An Alternate Universe

2007-08-31T11:42:00.000+03:00

What Makes People Tick?
All people have their own way of being in the world. It is easiest to comprehend this basic yet profound fact when we consider that every human being on the planet occupies a distinct role in the universe. We grow up in different environments, affected by a unique range of influences. The preferences, values, and beliefs we embrace are frequently related intimately to our origins. And the need to individualize our experiences is instinctive, as doing so enables us to cope when we must face challenges on our own. Consequently, each of us has developed a perspective that is uniquely ours. Interacting peacefully and constructively with people from all walks of life is a matter of first understanding where they are coming from. Then we can adjust our expectations so that we avoid making undue assumptions about what they are about. In the face of emerging interpersonal conflict, it is easy to assume that others are being difficult, unreasonable, or stubborn. We are apt to grow frustrated when someone in our environment does not share our opinions or feel compelled to support us in our endeavors. It is likely that the individual or individuals before us may simply possess differing notions with regard to what is and what is not important in this life. We can ease the tension that exists between us by reaffirming our belief in the fundamental right of all beings to determine their own destinies. To foster a harmonious relationship, we need to do our best to relate to the unique universes they inhabit. And as we discover what makes them tick, our ability to find a mode of interaction that is pleasing to both of us is enhanced.
When there are barriers keeping you from connecting with someone else, think of questions you can ask them to gain a more thorough understanding of their point of view. You may discover that in addition to the differences in perspective dividing you, they are subject to insecurities and other personal issues that influence their way of seeing the world. It is likely that you will never fully grasp the myriad complexities embodied by humanity, but you can go a long way toward encouraging mutually satisfying relations by reaching out to others in the spirit of sympathetic comprehension.

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No Hard Edges

2007-08-31T11:34:00.000+03:00

Creating Space In The Body
Our minds and bodies are interconnected, and the condition of one affects the condition of the other. This is why meditation is such a powerful tool for healing the body, as powerful as physical therapies. When our minds are cluttered with thoughts, information, and plans, our bodies respond by trying to take action. When the body has a clear directive from the mind, it knows what to do, but a cluttered, unfocused mind creates a confused, tense body. Our muscles tighten up, our breath shortens, and we find ourselves feeling constricted without necessarily knowing why. When we sit down to meditate, we let our bodies know that it is okay to be still and rest. This is a clear directive from the mind, and the body knows exactly how to respond. Thus, at the very beginning, we have created a sense of clarity for the body and the mind. As we move deeper into meditation, the state of our mind reveals itself, and we have the opportunity to consciously decide to settle it. A meditation teacher pointed out that if you put a cow in a small pen, she acts up and pushes against the boundaries, whereas if you provide her with a large, open space, she will peacefully graze in one spot. In the same way, our thoughts settle down peacefully if we provide them with enough space, and our bodies follow suit. When we settle down to examine and experience our consciousness, we discover that there are no hard, definable edges. It is a vast, open space in which our thoughts can come and go without making waves, as long as we let them by neither attaching to them nor repressing them. As we see our thoughts come and go, we begin to breathe deeper and more easily, finding that our body is more open to the breath as it relaxes along with the mind. In this way, the space we recognize through meditation creates space in our bodies, allowing for a feeling of lightness and rightness with the world.

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كيف تعالج نفسك بطاقة الشفاء الموجودة في أسماء الله الحسنى

2007-05-23T14:12:00.000+03:00

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

اكتشف د.إبراهيم كريم مبتكر علم البيايولوجيو أسماء الله الحسنى لها طاقة شافية لعدد ضخم من الأمراض بواسطة أساليب القياس الدقيقة المختلفة في قياس الطاقة داخل جسم الإنسان و اكتشف أن لكل اسم من أسماء الله الحسنى طاقة تحفظ جهاز المناعة للعمل بكفاءة مثلى في عضو معين بجسم الإنسان , و استطاع د.إبراهيم بواسطة تطبيق قانون الرنين أن يكتشف أن مجرد ذكر اسم الله الحسنى يؤدي إلى تحسين في مسارات الطاقة الحيوية داخل جسم الإنسان و بعد أبحاث استمرت ثلاث سنوات توصل د.إبراهيم إلى ما يلي

و يشير الدكتور إلى انه أول شخص تجرى عليه الأبحاث حيث عالج عينيه من الالتهاب و انتهى بنطق التسبيح باسم( النور و الخبير ) و خلال عشر دقائق تم الشفاء و زال الاحمرار عن عينيه و يلاحظ أن نفس أسماء الجلالة تستخدم للوقاية و قد اكتشف أن طاقة الشفاء تتضاعف عند تلاوة آيات الشفاء . بعد ذكر التسبيح بأسماء الله الحسنى و هذه الآيات هي {و يشفي صدور قوم مؤمنين} , {فيه شفاء للناس} , {و ننزل من القران ما هو شفاء و رحمة} ,
{و إذا مرضت فهو يشفين} , {قل هو للذين امنوا هدى و شفاء} .
طريقة العلاج: وضع اليد على مكان الألم و ذكر التسابيح إلى ما شاء الله و يكرر ذلك حتى يأذن الله بزوال الألم.

مع تمنياتي لكم بالشفاء من الله سبحانه و تعالى

Healing With Movement

2007-05-12T10:22:00.000+03:00

Rediscovering Dance
As children, most of us were encouraged to dance on a regular basis, freely and openly, in whatever way felt best. A few of us may have retained or regained our ability to engage in dancing unselfconsciously, but by the time we reach adulthood, many of us have stopped dancing altogether. We may have hang-ups about our bodies, or we may fear being judged. Then again, we may simply have fallen out of the habit for so long that we don't even realize we never dance anymore. Whatever the case, there's no time like now to rediscover the healing pleasure of moving your body to music-alone, as part of a couple, or in a group. Opportunities to dance abound, once you start looking for them. If you haven't danced in a long time and feel too self-conscious to start in a public situation, find some time alone to reintroduce yourself to the joy of listening and responding to music with your body. Turn the lights down low and remember that it's much more fun when you're not thinking about what you look like. It won't take long before your body remembers how much it loves to move. Feel the music in your soul, feel the vibrations healing your body. Treat the time like a meditation session in which you agree to allow yourself to fully inhabit your amazing body. If you feel awkward, remember that every culture since time immemorial has celebrated life and the body with dance. All people carry the memory of dance in their blood and bones. In other words, you were born to do this, it is in you already; all you have to do is start moving. If you prefer more interaction, take a class one night a week. In most cities, you can find everything from modern dance to African dance to ballroom and salsa. Whatever you choose, you won't regret choosing to rediscover your birthright-the healing, joyful thrill of dancing.

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Mystery of Solar Loops Solved

2007-04-20T12:18:00.000+03:00

By Maia Weinstock
Staff Writerposted: 07:00 pm ET

26 September 2000

NASA Administrator Daniel Goldin presented highly detailed, enlightening images of the sun at a press conference Tuesday morning. Taken by NASAs Transition Region and Coronal Explorer ( TRACE) satellite, the images bring solar physicists one step closer to answering many questions about the intricate mechanics of the solar surface and atmosphere.
According to Goldin, astronomers working with the new TRACE images have in fact solved a mini-mystery about hot electrified gas ejections from the sun called coronal loops. They found that these large loops of energy, which comprise the solar corona (the suns outermost gaseous layer), are heated to millions of degrees Fahrenheit directly at the loops bases a direct negation of a previous theory that proposed the loops are heated uniformly.
"Being able to understand how the sun works is very, very important," said Goldin, who presented the latest images at the American Museum of Natural Historys Rose Center for Earth and Space in New York. "We didnt understand where the energy was going into these coronal arcsbut with this data were finding the heating is going in right at their base. We hope that this will help our scientists better understand this [looping] phenomenon."
Ultraviolet-light image of coronal loops, large arcs of gas and energetic particles that make up the suns corona, as seen by the TRACE satellite telescope
Scientists are particularly interested in studying the suns corona because it is in this layer that dangerous solar ejections of gas and charged particles are thought to originate. Called coronal mass ejections, these huge spurts of energy shoot out from the sun and quite often reach Earth, sometimes causing disruption of power stations, satellite systems and other technologies on which humans depend.
TRACEs newest observations show that coronal loops form when huge gas fountains are heated by a yet unknown energy source located near the loops bases, roughly 10,000 miles (16,000 kilometers) above the suns visible surface. Scientists have found that the suns coronal loops are heated to as much as 1,000 times the temperature of the suns visible surface, or about 3 million degrees Fahrenheit ( 1.7 million degrees Celsius).
"The mysterious energy source that makes the suns atmosphere so incredibly hot has been an enigma for more than 70 years," said Dr. Markus Aschwanden, a researcher at the Lockheed Martin Solar and Astrophysics Laboratory and the lead author of a paper on TRACEs newest data, which is pending publication in the Astrophysical Journal. "Locating the source of coronal heating is a key piece of this puzzle."
Coronal loops, which constantly emerge and disappear all over the suns surface, can span a length of about 250,000 miles (400,000 kilometers), or about 30 times the diameter of Earth. Every now and then, one or more of the loops (which is actually a composite of a bundle of smaller gas loops) somehow "snap open" in the form of a mass coronal ejection, releasing gas and particles out into space. Understanding exactly how and why these coronal mass ejections snap open may soon help researchers predict dangerous solar weather.
Being able to predict when major solar ejections will hit Earth is possible because although light from the sun reaches us in about 10 minutes, coronal flares take between one and four days to reach the planet. As a result, if we can detect these ejections shortly after they occur with space-based satellites, we can "begin to take action to prevent some of the problems we see here," said Goldin.
TRACE is one of two major space satellites currently studying our nearest star in great detail. The other, the joint European Space Agency/NASA Solar and Heliospheric Observatory (SOHO), has also been capturing some stunning images of the sun, though its emphasis has been on global solar phenomena as opposed to closeups of small sections of the solar surface. Observations from both TRACE and SOHO are also helping astronomers understand stellar dynamics in general, since other stars are too distant to study with this degree of detail.

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http://www.space.com/scienceastronomy/solarsystem/trace_update_000926.html

بقلم دلع المفتي

2007-04-05T11:03:00.000+03:00

أين الكويت؟

قرأت مقالا للكاتبة والشاعرة الجميلة 'شكلا وموضوعا' جمانة حداد بعنوان 'أين بيروت'، فيه تتساءل الكاتبة عن غياب بيروت عن الجامعات العريقة والمتاحف والمعارض والمهرجانات الضخمة، التي تقام في دبي وأبوظبي والخليج، متحسرة على يوم كانت فيه بيروت قبلة الأدب والعلم والفن.. أيام كان لبيروت الدور الريادي ثقافيا وإعلاميا وفنيا.أستطيع ان اتفهم حسرة جمانة حداد واللبنانيين على بلدهم وحزنهم على ما آلت اليه بعد الحروب الأهلية والاسرائيلية والخراب والاغتيالات والديون المتراكمة على خزينة الدولة. ولتسمح لي الكاتبة ان أستعير عنوان مقالها لاتساءل 'أين الكويت؟'.ان كان لبنان (والحق معه) مازال مشغولا بالتحقيقات ورفع الانقاض وسداد الديون وتعويض المهجرين وتكفيف دموع الثكالى، فإن الكويت ـ والحمد لله ـ تعيش في سبات ونبات ورغد عيش. الكويت بخزينتها الممتلئة وفائض ميزانيتها وعدد مواطنيها الذي لا يتعدى المليون وبترولها وأمنها 'النسبي' وراحة بالها ورخاء اقتصادها يجب ان تجلس على التل وتندب حالها.متحف غوغنهايم الشهير سيفتتح فرعا له في أبوظبي، وكذلك جامعة السوربون.. مركز للتزلج الشتوي وسط الصحراء في دبي، قبة فلكية مجهزة بأحدث التقنيات العلمية تتيح القيام بجولة خيالية في الفضاء، وادي سيليكون خليجي، مطار فضائي، ناهيك عن المهرجانات الفنية التي تستقطب ألمع نجوم الفن والغناء والملتقيات الثقافية التي يشارك فيها أشهر الكتاب والشعراء، هذا وقد شرعت دبي في بناء ما تطلق عليه 'قرية الثقافة' بتكلفة 14 مليار دولار، والتي ستكون تجمعا لأكاديميات فنون ومسارح ومتاحف وغيرها من المنتجات الثقافية.تقول جمانة.. ان التجارة، التعليم، المال، السياحة، الإعلام، العقارات، الثقافة.. إلخ: القطاعات كافة باتت أوراقا خليجية رابحة.اعذرينا يا جمانة فقد جانبك الصواب. نعم الخليج كله في طفرة اقتصادية ثقافية علمية إعلامية الا الكويت. كان عليك ان تستثني الكويت من خريطتك. فنحن مشغولون بمواضيع خطيرة ومهمة لمصير الأمة، كحجاب وزيرة التربية، واستجواب الوزراء على اخطاء اسلافهم، وحل مجلس الأمة تارة وحل مجلس الوزراء تارة أخرى، وتحريم الضحك واللهو البريء، ومواضيع مصيرية مازلنا نناقشها منذ عقود، بينما الركب يسير وينسانا. حتى انه منذ أسابيع أقيم في كويتنا مؤتمر للقطاع الخاص، نظمته غرفة تجارة وصناعة الكويت عنوانه 'كلام مكرر وقرار مؤجل'، وهذه هي حالنا.. بالمختصر المفيد.. نعيد ونزيد في الكلام ونؤخر ونؤجل بالقرارات.تسألين يا جمانة أين بيروت.. ونسأل بحسرة: أين الكويت؟

فاقد الشيء لا يعطيه

2007-03-24T17:31:00.000+03:00

I've always heard the phrase above, but I never knew why until I saw the outcomes of those who think they can give to others when actually they were in desperate need to give themselves!.

When a person is missing something in his\her life, they'd either admit to it and work on putting themselves back together again.. or they are in constant denial of it and instead of working on it they'd think that others are also missing that thing.. so they'd work hard on making sure that they don't!...that's by providing all kinds of help possible.... now it's great to help others.... but not when that person who is helping is actually missing what they are preaching..... WHY?

What do you think would happen to the child's self esteem in the scenario bellow:

a parent [ wasn't good at math back at school, and was teased at it ] forces his/her smart child to take all the extra classes of math offered just to make sure the child doesn't fail.

There would be both positive and negative outcomes, the positive one is obvious [ the child will A++ the math class ] , the negative outcome would come up in different forms, 1 - the child might learn to never talk about his/her feelings again, 2- the child might build up hate against the parent, 3- the child might look for an outsider to listen to them other than their parent. and so on..

Now, I'm sure that no one would want those negative outcomes.. and that's why there is an ideal way and by ideal i mean the way that has no negative impact on any person..... can you guess from the questions bellow what is the ideal way ...?
What would you think would happen if the same parent did not suffer at school ? or the parent was wise enough to realize that his/her child is a unique human being therefore might not pass through the same experience? or the parent had looked for help for whatever issue she/he had ? do you think the parent would have forced their child into doing anything ? I personally don't.

Now the scenario above was me metaphorically speaking... and I hope that you've understood my point I'm trying to get across…. The person could feel lack of love, lack of self confidence ,lack of self esteem, and so on….you put the example and calculate the outcome.

In general… if the person is preaching something that they lack… part of the outcome will always be negative.

Dear spiritual beings.... if you know that you are missing something.. Only when you seek help! you will find help and get healed! ..Don't let your children \ friends \ family be victims of your carelessness.

Rhythmic Rest

2007-03-15T01:39:00.000+03:00

Natural Cycles Of Sleep
The human body evolved to fall asleep soon after the descent of night's curtain and to wake with the appearance of the dawn. Sleep cycles were governed by patterns of light and darkness for thousands of years, meaning that for much of history, humanity has enjoyed nine of more hours of sleep each night. Our bodies are naturally encoded to respond to light and dark and sleeping with the rhythms of Mother Nature. In the present, artificial light has changed the way we schedule our day-to-day lives, and most of us slumber for less than seven hours at a stretch. It is possible, however, to come back to natural sleeping cycles by making a few small changes. When our bodies and minds are attuned to the world's natural rhythms, we feel calmer, more centered, and more energetic while awake. Sleep is more satisfying because we afford ourselves more than enough time for restoration and rejuvenation. Our reliance on indoor lighting further compounds our disassociation from the natural cycles of light and darkness that would otherwise preside over our sleep. You can mimic the passage of the day by changing the quality of the light. Sleeping without heavy drapery or shades is best so you can wake up with the sun. If sleeping by a window without a curtain is not an option, a dawn simulator lamp imitates the sun by growing steadily brighter with the coming of the height of morning. You will likely discover that changing your sleep patterns to be in sync with the daily cycle of light and darkness is easy and that you feel more alive when your sleeping and waking rhythms are in alignment to those of the earth. Nature's own phases will be your guide to wellness, granting you more waking hours in the summertime when you will benefit greatly from spending time outside and ensuring you get plenty of sleep in the winter when you likely need it most.

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The Past In Light Of The Present

2007-02-22T19:55:00.000+03:00

Knowing Better Now
When we look back at the past, knowing what we know now, we often find it difficult to understand how we made the mistakes we made. This is because once we learn new information, it is nearly impossible to reenter the headspace we were in before we learned that information. And so we look back at parents who spanked their kids, for example, and wonder how they could have thought that was a good idea. Similarly, our personal pasts are full of mistakes we can't believe we made. We did things then that we would never do now, and this is precisely because we have information now that we didn't have, or weren't able to access, then. From ideas about how to raise children to how to treat the environment, our collective human past sometimes reads like a document on what not to do. In many ways, this is exactly as it should be. We learn from living and having experiences. It is from these past actions that we garnered the information that guides us to live differently now. Just so, in our personal lives, we probably had to have a few unsuccessful relationships or jobs, learning about our negative tendencies through them, in order to gain the wisdom we have now. In order to live more peacefully with the past, it helps to remember that once we know better, we tend to do better. Prior to knowing, we generally do our best, and while it's true that from the perspective of the present, our best doesn't always seem good enough, we can at least give our past selves the benefit of the doubt. We did our best with what knowledge we had. Beyond this, we serve the greater good most effectively by not dwelling on the past, instead reigning our energy and knowledge into our present actions. It is here, in this moment, that we create our reality and ourselves anew, with our current knowledge and information.

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Choosing Not To Be A Target

2007-02-22T18:23:00.000+03:00

Emotional Attacks
Hurtful confrontations often leave us feeling drained and confused. When someone attacks us emotionally, we may wonder what we did to rouse their anger, and we take their actions personally. We may ask ourselves what we could have done to compel them to behave or speak that way toward us. It's important to remember that there are no real targets in an emotional attack and that it is usually a way for the attacker to redirect their uncomfortable feelings away from themselves. When people are overcome by strong emotions, like hurt or anguish, they may see themselves as victims and lash out at others as a means of protection or to make themselves feel better. You may be able to shield yourself from an emotional attack by not taking the behavior personally. First, however, it is good to cultivate a state of detachment that can provide you with some protection from the person who is attacking you. This will allow you to feel compassion for this person and remember that their beha! vior isn't as much about you as it is about their need to vent their emotions. If you have difficulty remaining unaffected by someone's behavior, take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself that you didn't do anything wrong, and you aren't responsible for people's feelings. If you can see that this person is indirectly expressing a need to you-whether they are reaching out for help or wanting to be heard-you may be able to diffuse the attack by getting them to talk about what is really bothering them. You cannot control other people's emotions, but you can control your own. If you sense yourself responding to their negativity, try not to let yourself. Keep your heart open to them, and they may let go of their defensiveness and yield to your compassion and openness.

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طبخة حب

2007-02-15T11:18:00.000+03:00

وردني الكثير من الرسائل على مقال الأسبوع الماضي، وللأمانة أكثرها كان من الجنس الخشن يعاتبني على هضم حقه في مسألة الزوجين والمتزوجين. ويمكنني ان اتابع في هذا الموضوع بناء على طلبات القراء.من يقرأ كتب التاريخ يجدها زاخرة بقصص حب مجنونة وحارقة كحب مجنون ليلى وقيس ولبنى وروميو وجولييت، وقد تركت هذه القصص أكبر الأثر في نفوسنا، وكان هؤلاء العشاق قدوة لكل المراهقين (وحتى مراهقين ما بعد الخمسين) من زيمبابوي الى توبماكتو وما بينهما، لكن الذي لم ينتبه له الكثيرون أن معظم القصص التي تداولتها الكتب وانتقلت إلينا جيلا بعد جيل، هي قصص لعشاق لم تنته بالزواج

هل كان للحب ان ينتهي لو أنهم تزوجوا؟ بالطبع لا. لكن حكايات عشقهم وأشعارهم وتضحياتهم في سبيل من يحبون، كانت قصصا تستحق أن تروى، لكن زواجهم سيجعل القصة عادية مثل أي فيلم عربي حفظناه عن ظهر قلب: أحمد تزوج سميرة وخلفوا صبيان وبنات وعاشوا في سبات ونبات (سبات فهمتها بس نبات شنو)؟

الزواج لا يقتل الحب إنما يهدئه

فلنفترض أن الحب طبخة، مقاديرها مشاعر وأحاسيس وود وحنان. نضعها في قدر، نرش عليها بعض بهارات الأشواق والدموع والآهات ونرفعها 'في البداية' على نار حامية كي تتجانس المقادير مع بعضها وتختلط جيدا، ومن ثم نخفض لهيب النار ونتركها 'تتهدا' على مهلها الى ان تستوي فيظهر مذاقها ويتأكد طعمها وتعبق رائحتها في المكان. 'بالله عليكم أليس هذا تفسيرا جهنميا؟

وهنا يجب علينا أن نفهم أن الحب مازال موجودا، وان القدر مازال فيه الكثير من مقادير 'الطبخة' التي تكفي الجميع ولسنين طوال، لكن ان بردت ما علينا سوى أن نزيد حرارة النار تحتها لتعود إليها نكهتها كما كانت. ستسألون كيف؟

فكما أن المرأة تحس بالملل والبرود، فالرجل أيضا في لحظة ما يشعر بأن الاهتمام به تقلص وتحول إلى قائمة من المتطلبات، وأنه صار أسير المسؤولية ملك اليمين غير قابل للحركة.. فينتقل من الملل الى الشعور بالاختناق من كم المسؤوليات والطلبات

وكثيرا ما يبحث الرجل عن عاطفة زوجته ليجدها محفوظة في ثلاجة البيت بجانب اللحوم والخضروات. فلا كلمة ولا لمسة ولا
بادريه أنت.. بهمسة بلمسة بغمزة، فاجئيه بهدية بقبلة أو بحضن دافئ غير متوقع.سيدتي... أرجوك لا تنتظري الحب، باشري بهطلبت مرة من صديقة ان تفعل ذلك لتنشيط حياتها الزوجية التي كانت تشتكي من برودتها.. فقالت لي 'أخاف عليه تجيه جلطة؟ فأنا لم أعوده على هذه الحركات

الحركات هذه هي ما تبقي النار مولعة تحت قدر الحب. فأرجوك شعلليها

بقلم دلع المفتي'

Transitioning through Life’s Phases

2007-02-13T17:37:00.000+03:00

Midlife Crisis
In our youth-oriented culture, the process of aging is not honored as it once was. There have been societies that looked to those who were older for leadership, understanding that their life experiences must have brought some wisdom with them. Our society tends to put more value on looking youthful, so when the time comes that we don’t look, move, or feel the way we once did, this causes a sudden jolt to our perception of ourselves. We can look at this shift as a crisis and fight against change, or we can take the opportunity to transition smoothly to a new phase of life. We spend our youth learning who we are and what we are capable of accomplishing. As we set and reach our goals, it is easy to identify ourselves by our roles. At some point we may feel very comfortable in the idea that we have a complete understanding of ourselves. This is, inevitably, when things change and we get to see ourselves from a new perspective. Those who have reached their goals may wonder where to go from there, feeling uncomfortable with the new choice of parts to play. Others may have to let go of an identity that was built around a goal that was not reached and decide from what foundation to rebuild. Although it can be challenging to shift into a new expression of self, we may find that we’re better suited for this fresh path of self-discovery and the new perspective it brings. Whether we find ourselves facing a midlife crisis or any life transition, we can take the time to get in touch with our inner selves. From the unchanging spirit within us, we can accept and embrace the changes that come with the human experience. Examining where we’ve been and what we’ve learned can point in the direction of all that we would like to do now and in the future. When we anchor our identity in our spiritual nature, we understand that physical change does not change who we are, but only offers another perspective from which to experience, understand, and celebrate life.

Article from [ www.DailyOm.com ]

Benefit of the doubt

2007-02-10T17:09:00.000+03:00

I was thinking the other day about a page in a book that i read. Basically it tells us that we should not blame others for wrong choices we make in our lives, regardless whether or not "the other" could have motivated us to do so.

I think at the end ..that we should choose how to interpret what those people did or say the way that works best for us.. but not the way that would make us feel unhappy \angry \ depressed \or frustrated etc...in which we use it as an excuse for the wrong choices that
we have taken or about to take in our lives.

Eaxmple: I've heard many people say that every wrong choice they did they knew deep down inside that it was wrong.. they only did it as a revenge because of how their parents treated them., but if they just stop for a second and think about it... the parents are not the ones that will be hurt ., it's them . they are alowing themselves to be victims of their wrong thinking and interpretation of things. and i assure you it was never the parents intentions to let their children think this way or to push them away or whatever, it's the child who interpreted it this way and used it as an excuse.

It's our choice to whether we see the glass half empty or half full. Either way we are right.. but the half empty would affect us negatively.. and the half full will affect us positively... therefore we must remember that the only person who is going to be affected with our thinking and choices we make is ourselves. Now the same thing applies to friends.. families .. or maybe something we read or something we saw ... if we just stop and think and try to interpret what we heard or saw or what has been told to us the way that best works for us in a positive manner ofcourse... we'd find ourselves living in constant harmony and happiness because it's only natural positive thinking would lead to healthy life.. and negative thinking would lead to a life full of turbulance.

My point is... if we ever encounter anything that is related to what i have said above in our lives... the only healthy way for a person to continue his/her life normally is to give a positive excuse to why they said that or did that or etc... [ knowing that a negative excuse would also sound believable... but since we can never go inside the other person's head.. it's only wise to give them the benefit of the doubt] .

Unearthing Your Roots

2007-02-07T14:41:00.000+03:00

Knowing Your History
Each of us is a piece of a larger puzzle. We are all born into the unique and complex network of individuals, settings, and circumstances that constitute our heritage. Whether or not you are aware of your ancestors, you family's country of origin, the cultural history of your people, or the trials faced by the people responsible for bringing you into the world, these forces have had a hand in shaping your values. Knowing your family history and reflecting often upon your own personal history as it relates to your heritage empowers you to look at your life in a larger historical context and to understand that you are a vital part of an ongoing drama greater than yourself. Researching your heritage can prepare you to meet the future. The traits of your ancestors can give you insight into how your character has developed and the beliefs that form the foundation of your worldview. The knowledge you gain can help you appreciate your values and your character, giving you the confidence to be more expressive where both are concerned. At a cellular level, you carry a genetic code from your family determining things like how you age, your blood type, and personality traits. But as a spiritual being you bring in what you chose to do with that genetic coding, your free will. Unearthing your heritage is not simply about uncovering who did what when or reconnecting with long-lost relatives. Rather, it is a method of building self-awareness and bridging the gulf that divides your past from your future. In researching our individual histories, however, we may encounter relatives who made interesting choices or were involved in traumatic events. It's easy to overestimate the importance of these pieces of our past and to cling to them. Balance is key. While your heritage has influenced the development of the person you are today, you are more than an ethnicity, a culture, or a family name. You should not feel driven to alter your likes and dislikes, dreams, preferences, or values because you feel your heritage demands it. Knowing your history is about loving who you are, understanding where you've come from, and preparing for your future.

Article from [ www.DailyOm.com ]

Redefining Health

2007-02-02T11:42:00.000+03:00

Throw Away Your Scale
Health is not a numerical concept and cannot be defined using statistics. Human beings, however, tend to want to quantify well-being into easily understandable figures. We feel compelled to ascribe numbers to every aspect of wellness, from the qualities of our food to our fitness levels to the physical space we occupy. As a consequence of social pressures, we turn our attention away from health and focus instead on the most contentious of these figures-weight-checking our scales to see how we measure up to our peers and role models. Yet each of us is equipped to gauge our relative healthfulness without any equipment whatsoever. When we have achieved a state of wellness, we feel buoyant and energetic. Some of us are naturally slim, while others will always be curvy. No matter what our weight, we can use the cues we receive from our physical and mental selves to judge how healthy we really are. When you throw away your scale, you commit to a lifestyle that honors the innate wisdom that comes from within your body and within your mind. It is logical to examine how you feel while considering your health-a strong, fit, and well-nourished individual will seldom feel heavy, bloated, or fatigued. If you have concerns regarding your weight, remind yourself that at its proper weight, your body will feel buoyant and agile. Movement becomes a source of joy. Sitting, standing, walking, and bending are all easy to do because your joints and organs are functioning as they were meant to. When you are physically healthy, your mind will also typically occupy a place of well-being. Mental clarity and an ability to focus are two natural traits of whole-self health. Surprisingly, promoting this type of easy-to-discern wellness within yourself takes no special effort outside of satisfying your hunger with nourishing, wholesome foods and moving your body. The numbers you see on the scale, while nominally informative, can prevent you from reaching your healthful eating goals by giving you a false indicator of health. You will know when you have achieved true health because every fiber of your being will send you signals of wellness. When you choose to listen to these signals instead of relying on the scale, your definition of well-being will be uniquely adapted to the needs of your body and of your mind.

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Freeing Our Inner Desires

2007-02-01T12:24:00.000+03:00

Using Our Outside Voice
Each of us has developed an internal filtering process that helps us choose which parts of our constant inner monologues get voiced outside of our heads. Sometimes the choice is based on what we consider to be polite or appropriate, using subtlety instead of directness to try to get our point across. Other times the choice is made based on our expectations of the other person and what we feel they should know about us, our feelings, and our needs. But our best chance of getting what we need is to communicate specifically by converting our inner voice to our outside voice. This may seem unnecessary sometimes, especially when we think the other person has the same information we ourselves are working with, but we have to remember they also have their own inner voice, evaluating what they hear in light of their own issues and needs. With so much to consider and sift through, we are truly better off if we communicate precisely. Not only does doing this minimize the chance for misinterpretation, but voicing our thoughts it is an act of creation. We convert thought and imagination to sound, releasing it from the chamber of our minds into the outside world. This carries energy and intention with it, making our thoughts, wishes, and even dreams come true. When we have the courage to speak our minds and use our voice to send the desires of our hearts from our inner world to the world outside, we take a bold step in making them happen. By removing fear of what others may think and expectation of what others should understand, we free ourselves and our thoughts from the bondage of the mental chamber and let loose our desires onto the canvas of the world. Next time we become aware that we have a choice about how to communicate, we can choose to use our outside voice and watch its creative power at work.

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What You Think Is What you Get

2007-01-21T17:10:00.000+03:00

The Law Of Attraction
The law of attraction is surprisingly simple: Like attracts like. It becomes a bit more complicated when it comes to training our minds to think in ways that will bring what we desire into our lives. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” describes the same law. This well-known term explains that we create the circumstances our mind dwells upon, whether positive or negative. So our goal is to practice consistent presence of mind to make sure our thoughts are always directed toward the positive and that which we want to create. A key to the process is the word “frequency.” This is true for two reasons: 1) The frequency you use when you passionately dwell upon or revisit a thought, dream, desire or goal provides the energy your musings need for creation; and 2) just like a radio station broadcasts on a certain frequency, like the radio you must be “tuned in” to receive it. This means preparing for the arrival of your dream on every possible level—material, physical, and spiritual. You don’t have to know how it will come into your life, just trust that it will. Your job is to lay the groundwork, follow any leads you can find, and prepare for its arrival. This can mean cleaning out your garage to make space for a new car, taking a tour of a model home to get the feel of it in order to feed your fantasies, or thinking of what you want in a mate and then living up to that list yourself. Just like with any skill, the law of attraction must be practiced. We must decide what makes us feel abundant, and use our imagination to create the feeling. It isn’t enough to just want something; you must use the power of your thoughts to attract it. A series of choices is what brings us everything in our lives right now, every moment. When we know the direction we want our choices to take us, it is as if we’ve placed an order with the universe. Then we can await its arrival with joyful anticipation. If we find ways to experience our dreams right now, we make creating joy a treasure hunt in which the seeking is just as much fun as the finding.

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Considering Others

2007-01-20T14:54:00.000+03:00

Reaffirming Our Integrity
Every thought we think and every action we take has an effect on the world around us. To be aware of this is to be conscious of our impact on the people in our lives. Sometimes we just want to do what we want to do, but considering the full ramifications of our actions can be an important part of our spiritual growth and awareness. At first, being more conscious requires effort, but once we have made it a habit, it becomes second nature. The more we practice this awareness of others, the more we find ourselves in easy alignment with our integrity. Our thoughts are an important place to begin this practice because our thoughts are the seeds of our actions. It is not necessary or beneficial to obsessively monitor all our thoughts, but we can perhaps choose one thought or action per day and simply notice if we are in alignment with this experience of integrity. For example, we may find ourselves replaying a negative encounter with someone in our minds. We may think that this doesn’t affect the person about whom we are thinking, but the laws of energy tell us that it does. When we hold someone negatively in our minds, we risk trapping them in negativity. If we were this person, we might wish for forgiveness and release. We can offer this by simply letting go of the negative thought and replacing it with a wish for healing on that person’s behalf. With regard to our actions, we may have something difficult to express to someone. Taking the time to consider how we would feel if we were in his or her shoes will enable us to communicate more sensitively than we would if we just expressed ourselves from our own perspective. When we modify our approach by taking someone else’s feelings into account, we bring benefit to that person and ourselves equally. The more we do this, the more we reaffirm our integrity and the integrity of our relationship to the world.

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Seeing Beyond The Unknown

2007-01-09T13:15:00.000+03:00

Fear Of Losing What We Have
One of humanity's biggest fears is losing what we have. It is healthy when fear of loss helps us take steps to protect what we have worked hard to attain, but it is unhealthy to continue to fear something we can do nothing about. We need to remember that focusing our energy on fear can actually create what scares us, and holding tightly to what we have keeps us from participating in the universal flow of abundance and instead creates stagnation. Since we can only really control our thoughts and our responses, gaining proper perspective may be key to conquering such fears. The letters of the word "fear" can be used to stand for "False Evidence Appearing Real." Fears of being separated from something or someone we feel we need for our security or happiness comes from a delusion-a distorted way of understanding ourselves and the world around us. When we understand that possessions are only representations of the energy at work in our lives, we can shift our attention to the right and proper place. We can stop fearing loss of money or success because when we understand how it is created, we can always create more. We can stop fearing loss of possessions when we realize that they are not the source of our joy or well-being but only icing on our cakes. And when we understand the energy of love, we need not hold anyone too close for fear of losing them for we know that love does not diminish when it is given or shared but expands beyond boundaries of time or space. By focusing our light on our fears, they are revealed as mere shadows that disappear in the presence of mind and spirit. We can choose instead to direct our thoughts and creative power toward things of true value-love, abundance, peace, passion, and joy. These are energies that are always available to us when we place ourselves confidently in the universal flow of abundance.

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Facing Problems

2007-01-09T00:06:00.000+03:00

Running Away versus Moving Forward
There are times when change—moving to a new city or a new home, or changing careers—is the right thing at the right time. But there are also times when the urge for change is really just a desire to run away from problems that need to be faced rather than avoided. These are the kinds of problems that recur in our lives. For example, issues with coworkers that seem to arise at every job we take, or repeatedly getting into unhealthy relationships. A move might temporarily distract us, and even cure the problem for a time, simply by taking us out of the situation in which the problem fully manifested itself. However, the problem will eventually appear again in our new situation. One way to make sure you aren’t running away from your problems is to notice whether you are moving towards something that is exciting in its own right, as opposed to something that is appealing only because it is not where you are now. For example, if you are leaving a city because you feel you can’t afford it, you could be reinforcing poverty consciousness, and you might find that you are unable to make ends meet in your new city as well. It would ultimately be less of an effort to stay where you are and look more deeply into your beliefs about money. You may discover that as you address these issues, you are able to make more money simply by changing your mindset. You may still decide to move, but it will be an act with a positive intention behind it and not an escape, which could make all the difference. Any pain involved in facing our issues is well worth the effort in the end. When we face our problems instead of avoiding them, we free our energy and transform ourselves from people who run away into people who move enthusiastically forward.

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We Are Family

2007-01-01T23:50:00.000+03:00

Humanity
When it comes to our families, we sometimes see only our differences. We see the way our parents cling to ideas we don’t believe, or act in ways we try not to act. We see how practical one of our siblings is and wonder how we can be from the same gene pool. Similarly, within the human family we see how different we are from each other, in ways ranging from gender and race to geographical location and religious beliefs. It is almost as if we think we are a different species sometimes. But the truth is, in our personal families as well as the human family, we really are the same. A single mother of four living in Africa looks up at the same stars and moon that shine down on an elderly Frenchman in Paris. A Tibetan monk living in India, a newborn infant in China, and a young couple saying their marriage vows in Indiana all breathe the same air, by the same process. We have all been hurt and we have all cried. Each one of us knows how it feels to love someone dearly. No matter what our political views are, we all love to laugh. Regardless of how much or how little money we have, our hearts pump blood through our bodies in the same way. With all this in common, it is clear we are each individual members of the same family. We are human. Acknowledging how close we all are, instead of clinging to what separates us, enables us to feel less alone in the world. Every person we meet, see, hear, or read about, is a member of our family. We are truly not alone. We also begin to see that we are perfectly capable of understanding and relating to people who, on the surface, may seem very different from us. This awareness prevents us from disconnecting from people on the other side of the tracks, and the other side of the world. We begin to understand that we must treat all people for what they are—family.

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ISLAM cracks the code

2006-12-26T14:36:00.000+03:00

Finding God http://islamcode.com/videos/finding_god.html

Preacher enters Islam http://www.watchislam.com/videos/embed.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.watchislam.com%2Fvideos%2Ffull_length%2Fflash2%2Fpriests_and_preachers_enter_islam.flv&type=media

Jesus and the message http://islamcode.com/videos/jesus_message.html

Jesus in Islam http://islamcode.com/videos/jesus_in_islam.html

Finding Freedom In No

2006-12-20T10:31:00.000+03:00

Yes People
Many of us, from childhood on, are taught that saying yes is right and saying no is wrong. We learn that acceding to demands allows us to avoid conflict and criticism, please people, earn praise, and prove that we care for the important people in our lives. Yet the right to say no is indelibly intertwined with the ability to make choices. When we sense we are limited in our options, compelled to say yes even when doing so is not in our interests, we are effectively robbed of our ability to choose. Growing out of this tendency to say yes even when we desperately want to say no can be challenging because we suspect that others will reject us for our assertiveness. But the reward we receive upon facing this challenge is true freedom of choice. When others ask you to take on work or do favors, consider their requests carefully. If you feel pressed to say yes, consider whether you are acquiescing out of a desire for approval or to stave off disapproval. Remind yourself often that the ability to say no is an important aspect of well-being, as it is an indication that you understand the true value of your energy, talents, and time. As you learn to articulate your personal power by saying no, you may feel compelled to explore the myriad consequences of the word by responding negatively to many or most of the requests put to you. The word “no” may even become your default response for some time. When you see that life moves forward without interruption, however, you will grow more comfortable saying no and will resume making decisions from a point of balance. There is nothing inherently wrong with acceding to the requests others make of you, provided these requests do not infringe upon your health or your happiness. Keep in mind that it is only when you feel you have the legitimate right to say no that you can say yes with utmost certainty, sincerity, and enthusiasm. While saying yes almost always has a cost, you can feel good about offering your agreement when your reasons for doing so are rooted in your individual values and your appreciation for the appeal before you.

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Accessing The World Within

2006-12-19T14:37:00.000+03:00

Guided Meditation
A guided meditation uses the sound of a person’s voice to direct you through an inner process of relaxing your body and shifting your mind’s focus. The voice may be a person in the room with you or a recording—even something downloaded from the internet—and it is generally spoken in soothing, soft tones. You may be guided to focus on aspects of your physical body, such as on your breathing, relaxing your muscles one-by-one, or on an area in need of healing. Sometimes it might involve visualizing a journey through the beauty of the natural world. Other times, you may be led to envision yourself working with light or energy, accomplishing your goals, or repeating positive thoughts in your head. Your guide may walk you through relaxation or motivation to help you change a habit, access untapped potential, or perhaps merely to find the silence within you. Whether you are familiar with meditation or you are a beginner, being guided gives you the opportunity to benefit from the insight of others. There are numerous meditation and visualization techniques based in various spiritual philosophies and psychological applications. You may want to try several techniques to see what appeals to you the most, or just to gain a fresh perspective. Guided meditation allows you to learn from others in a way that is similar to ones used by ancients the world over. Once learned, meditation is a tool that will always be available to you. Like having a tour guide while traveling in a foreign country, a guided meditation takes you on an inner journey. But this tour allows you to see and experience your own inner world, a place that truly only exists within you. The scenes created in your mind’s eye can be revisited at anytime, without a guide, because once you have seen the fascinating landscape of your own inner terrain, there will always be more to explore

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Divergent Directions

2006-12-13T09:07:00.000+03:00

Coping With People You Dislike
As much as most of us wish we could exist in harmony with the people we encounter throughout our lives, there will always be individuals we dislike. Some simply rub us the wrong way while others strike us as deliberately unaware. We may judge others as too mean or abrasive for us to interact with them comfortably. Yet no person should be deemed a villain because their beliefs, opinions, mannerisms, and mode of being are not compatible with your own. You need not embrace the rough traits they have chosen to embody. There may be times in which the best course of action involves distancing yourself from someone you dislike. But circumstances may require that you spend time in the company of individuals who awaken your aversion. In such cases, you can ease your discomfort by showing your foe loving compassion while examining your feelings carefully. The reasons we dislike some individuals are often complex and, at first, indecipherable. Often, we are automatically averse to people who are different because they compel us to question our values, spirituality, culture, and ideologies, threatening to undermine our self-assurance. Realistically, however, those you dislike have no power to weaken your life’s foundations. In fact, your aversion to specific individuals may actually be your response to your fear that specific qualities you see in them also exist within you. Their presence may force you to face internal issues you would rather not confront. If you meet someone who inspired an intense, largely negative response in you, ask yourself why your reaction is so laden with powerful emotions. Remember that you control your feelings and, if necessary, you can minimize this individual’s impact on your well-being by choosing how you will respond to them. Though you may not have an immediate breakthrough, your willingness to consider your dislike rationally can help you better understand the root of your feelings. Your aversion to certain individuals may not wane over time, yet the comprehension you gain through reflection can help you interact with them sympathetically, benevolently, and with a greater degree of kindness. There is nothing wrong with recognizing that you are incompatible with some people. You may never achieve a shared harmony with those you dislike, but you can nonetheless learn to modulate your reactions to these individuals and, ultimately, to coexist peacefully with them.

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Hidden Gems

2006-12-08T23:11:00.000+03:00

Experiences We Don’t Understand
Sometimes we have an experience that we don’t understand, but if we look deeply, or wait long enough, a reason for that experience will usually reveal itself. All the events in our lives lead to other events, and all that we have manifested in this present moment is the result of past events and experiences. We cannot easily tease apart the many threads that have been woven together to create our current reality. Experiences that don’t make sense, as well as any that we regret, are just as responsible for the good things in our lives as the experiences we do understand or label as “good.” This is especially important to remember at times when we feel directionless or unsure of what to do. It is often at times like these that we take a job or move to a place without really knowing if it’s the right thing to do. We may ultimately end up leaving the job or the place, but often during that time we will have met someone who becomes an important friend, or we may have an experience that changes us in a profound way. When all the pieces of our life don’t quite make sense, we can remember that there may be some hidden gem of a reason that we are where we are having the experiences we are having. It’s fun to look back on past experiences with an eye to uncovering those gems—the dreadful temporary job in a bland office building that introduced you to the love of your life; the roommate you couldn’t tolerate who gave you a book that changed your life; the time spent living in a city you didn’t like that led you into a deeper relationship with yourself. Remembering these past experiences can restore our faith in the present. Life is full of buried treasures. Chances are, you’re sitting on some right now.

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Moving Beyond Appearance

2006-11-24T23:49:00.001+03:00

Softening Judgment
It is our natural inclination to judge people, since it happens without our even thinking about it. We take one look and summarize a whole person-overweight, pretty, stylish, sloppy. This habit comes from the mind's need to categorize the world in order to be able to function without becoming overwhelmed. When we judge, we are looking for pertinent information, trying to determine whether the person approaching is a threat, an ally, or someone we don't need to worry about. This way of looking at people makes sense in a dangerous context, but in our daily lives it leads to an overly simplistic reading of the people we meet. If you have ever judged someone dismissively, only to have them become a dear friend once you got to know them, you know the hazards of the judgment cycle firsthand. An experience like that may have led you to soften your natural tendency to believe your first impressions. We will always notice things about the people we meet, but as we become more conscious of the shortcomings of judgment, we won't be satisfied with our surface observations. We may notice that someone is driving an expensive car, but we will decide whether to befriend her based on getting to know her over time. We will not rule out a friendship with someone with messy hair, especially if he turns out to have a great sense of humor and a kind heart. Liking or disliking a person is a choice you will naturally make, but it will be after you have gotten to know them. Next time you notice yourself judging somebody, try to send love, light, or blessings to the person you were judging. Then try to listen to them openly or look them in the eye and learn something about them. If this is not easy for you, remember not to judge yourself either. Trust that with practice, you will successfully disable your habitual patterns. As you do, you will find a whole new dimension of perception opening up to you, allowing you to see beyond the surface and into the essence of the people you meet.

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Life

2006-11-24T23:44:00.001+03:00

Your Perfect Teacher
Many of us long to find a spiritual teacher or guru. We may feel unsure of how to practice our spirituality without one, or we may long for someone who has attained a higher level of insight to lead the way for us. Some of us have been looking for years to no avail and feel frustrated and even lost. The good news is that the greatest teacher you could ever want is always with you-that is your life. The people and situations we encounter every day have much to teach us when we are open to receiving their wisdom. Often we don't recognize our teachers because they may not look or act like our idea of a guru, yet they may embody great wisdom. In addition, some people teach us by showing us what we don't want to do. All the situations in our lives, from the insignificant to the major, conspire to teach us exactly what we need to be learning at any given time. Patience, compassion, perseverance, honesty, letting go-all these are covered in the classroom of the teacher that is your life. We can help ourselves to remember this perfect teacher each day with a few simple words. Each morning we might find a moment to say, "I acknowledge and honor the teacher that is my life. May I be wise enough to recognize the teachers and lessons that I encounter today, and may I be open to receiving their wisdom." We might also take some time each day to consider what our lives are trying to teach us at this time. A difficult phase in your relationship with your child may be teaching you to let go. The homeless person you see every day may be showing you the boundaries of your compassion and generosity. A spate of lost items may be asking you to be more present to physical reality. Trust your intuition on the nature of the lesson at hand, work at your own pace, and ask as many questions as you want. Your life has all the answers.

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إن كنت رجلا فلا تقرأ هذا المقال - بقلم دلع المفتي

2006-11-24T22:42:00.000+03:00

إن كنت رجلا فلا تقرأ هذا المقال! لكني أعرفكم جيدا... وأعرف ان معظم منة يقرأون هذا المقال هم الرجال.. لأن النساء (ياحبة عيني) لديهن ما هو أهم من القراءة! و.. لذلك لا بأس أن تقرأوا أيها الرجال، وتظاهروا بأنكم تقرأون المقالات السياسية (الأهم) على الصفحة المجاورة.تعودنا أن نرى الجمال في كل مكان من الفاتنات من نجوم السينما والتلفزيون إلى الشابات اللواتي يتبخترن في الشوارع، وعلى شاطئ الخليج والمجمعات. ارتفاع نسبة الجمال الطبيعي (والمشغول عليه) أصبح ملحوظا، وهي ظاهرة عادية وطبيعية خصوصا ان لدينا مبررا (شرعيا) نستخدمه في دواخلنا كما ونردده للآخرين 'الله جميل يحب الجمال'. وأقررنا ان من الطبيعي أن ينظر الإنسان إلى أخيه الإنسان (أو الإنسانة في هذه الحالة) ويتفحصه وكأنه سيكتب عنه رسالة دكتوراه! ثم إما يومئ إعجابا أو يترفع قرفا.قد أصبح من المستحيل أن تمر سيدة أو آنسة في مكان عام من دون أن تكون قد قيس طولها وعرضها وارتفاعها كما علمونا في علم الهندسة. لكن أبدا لم يتغير أسلوب المرأة في لفت انتباه زوجها وتأنيبه عندما ينظر باتجاه فتاة صغيرة جميلة، ولا أعتقد انه من الممكن أن تتعود المرأة على إعطاء زوجها ولو فسحة حرية صغيرة لكي ينظر (ينظر فقط) إلى ما هو جميل حولنا.أتحدى أي رجل لم يحس بكوع زوجته بين ضلوعه فيترنح ألما بعد ان استرق النظر إلى فاتنة مرت أمامه. وأكاد أجزم انه ما من زوج نجا من نظرات الويل والثبور عندما 'تصيده' زوجته متبسما وهو يتابع فاتنة تتحدث بغنج ودلع على التلفزيون. بل ومن المؤكد ان كل الرجال يتذكرون رفسة قوية من تحت طاولة مطعم عندما تمر جميلة من الجميلات أمام طاولتهما فتعلق اللقمة في بلعوم المسكين ولا ينزلها إلا ضربة قوية من ضربات الزوجة المحبة (الخايفة على زوجها العزيز وناوية تفقس عيونه باصبعها).من المؤكد ان النساء القليلات ممن يقرأن الآن ابتهجن لكلامي، ويتابعن بشغف ما يمكن أن تسميه إحداهن 'جابت أجلهم وفضحتهم بالجرايد' لكني أريد أن أهمس في أذنك سيدتي.. ولا تدعي علي ب 'الله لا يوفقها':قليلا من الحرية... أو كما يقول الكتاب المهمون 'نزر من حرية'.. فالأمر طبيعي وعادي وما وجدت العيون إلا للنظر، فلنكن واقعيات، ألسنا نحن نتابع الجمال والصبا بعيون الحسد والمتعة؟ لماذا نمنع أزواجنا عنها؟ دعي زوجك ينظر.. ويستمتع ولا تمنعيه. فإن لم يفعلها أمامك.. فعلها من ورائك وربما بوقاحة أكثر. دعيه يستمتع بنظرة بريئة (وحتى إن لم تكن بريئة) فهي في النهاية نظرة فقط

.أما أنت يا أستاذ.. أكاد أن أراك تقرأ وتهز رأسك وتقول نعم.. نعم، ها هي شواربك تنفرج مع انفراج فمك عن ابتسامة ساخرة. ولعلك قمت عن كرسيك مستفزا ومتمتما 'هذا الحكي الزين ولا بلاش'! أحذرك: إياك ثم إياك أن تركض بهذا المقال لزوجتك وتقول لها: 'شوفي.. افهمي.. اسمعي'، لأن في هذه الحالة تكون ردة الفعل عكسية ولا تأتي بالنتائج المطلوبة. نصيحتي لك افتح الجريدة على المقال المطلوب وارمه بتلقائية على الطاولة أمامها. ثم اجلس وتشاغل بحسابات مهمة وانتظر النتائج.وإلا.. فأنا لست مسؤولة.

Asking For What You Want

2006-11-22T17:40:00.000+03:00

Cocreating With The Universe

Most people don't always fully realize that we all have within us the ability to cocreate our lives with the universe. So many of us are taught to accept what we are given and not even to dream of anything more. But our hopes and dreams are the universe whispering to us, planting an idea of what's possible while directing us toward the best use of our gifts. The universe truly wants to give us our hearts' desires, but we need to be clear about what they are and ask for them. To ask for something does not mean to beg or plead from a place of lack or unworthiness. It's like placing an order-we don't need to beg the salesperson for what we want or prove to them that we deserve to have it. It is their job to give us what we ask for; we only have to tell them what we want. Once we have a clear vision of what we desire, we simply step into the silent realm where all possibilities exist and let our desires be known. Whatever methods we use to become still, it is important that we find the quiet space between our thoughts. From that still and quiet place, we can announce our intentions to the pure energy of creation. By imagining all the details from every angle, including scent, color, and how it would feel to have it, we design our dreams to our specifications. Similar to dropping a pebble into a pond, the ripples created by our thoughts travel quickly from this place of stillness, echoing out into the world to align and orchestrate all the necessary details to bring our desires into manifestation. Before leaving this wonderful space to come back to the world, release any attachment to the outcome and express gratitude. By doing this daily, we focus our thoughts and our energy while regularly mingling with the essence that makes it possible to build the life of our dreams.

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ابتسامه خجلى - بقلم دلع المفتي

2006-11-19T00:04:00.000+03:00

نقول بلييز و ثانك يوو ، نتصرف بمنتهى الادب والتهذيب. نعامل عامل النظافة كما نعامل مدير شركة. نطلب بذوق، نسأل بلطف ونجيب بألطف، نقف بالطابور ننتظر دورنا كبقية خلق الله دون مزاحمة ودون تأفف، نقود سياراتنا في حدود السرعة المقررة من دون استهتار ملتزمين بالاشارات واللوحات المرورية، نلتزم بالمواعيد، ولا نتأخر عنها ولو احتجنا ان نخرج ساعتين قبل الموعد، لاننا نعلم يقينا اننا لن نستقبل ان تأخرنا عن موعدنا، نحافظ على نظافة الشارع كما نحافظ على نظافة بيتنا. نحترم القوانين ونخضع للسلطة.. مادمنا خارج حدود الوطن.اما حين تطأ اقدامنا تراب الوطن، تصيبنا حالة 'امنيشيا' حادة، فننسى اخلاقنا وتربيتنا التي تعبت امهاتنا بها علينا، ننسى اللطف والذوق والتهذيب، نشخط في هذا ونزعق في ذاك. نحاول جاهدين ان نثبت للآخرين اهميتنا عبر تجهمنا وتعالينا على باقي خلق الله، نستسهل تصغير الآخرين ونستخدم أعراقنا، الواننا، جنسياتنا، مذاهبنا، وادياننا للاستعلاء على من يختلف عنا. لا نحترم قوانين بلداننا، ولا نخضع للسلطة. نستخدم الواسطة لتسيير امورنا، ندفع الرشوة لتسهيل معاملاتنا حتى لا ننتظر دقائق اخرى في طابور المراجعين، نتكلم مع المدير رأسا، فمن العيب ان نتكلم مع صغار الموظفين فنتجاوزهم. نتفنن في كيفية ايذاء الذوق العام من رمي الاوساخ الى الخروج بالبيجاما الى الشارع.. نقود سياراتنا وكأن كل سائق فينا اشترى الطريق من حساب والده الخاص، لا نحترم قوانين المرور ونغضب اذا اوقفنا شرطي لمخالفتنا رغم علمنا بخطئنا.نستعبد خلق الله تحت مسميات عدة (عمالة، خدم، وافدين، اجانب) ثم نستكثر عليهم حتى معاشاتهم.نسب ونلعن باوطاننا.. والعيب فينا.

Honoring Life Changes

2006-11-17T12:08:00.000+03:00

The Wisdom Of Fear
Anything worth doing will always have some fear attached to it. For example, having a baby, getting married, changing careers-all of these life changes can bring up deep fears. It helps to remember that this type of fear is good. It is your way of questioning whether you really want the new life these changes will bring. It is also a potent reminder that releasing and grieving the past is a necessary part of moving into the new. Fear has a way of throwing us off balance, making us feel uncertain and insecure, but it is not meant to discourage us. Its purpose is to notify us that we are at the edge of our comfort zone, poised in between the old life and a new one. Whenever we face our fear, we overcome an inner obstacle and move into new and life-enhancing territory, both inside and out. The more we learn to respect and even welcome fear, the more we will be able to hear its wisdom, wisdom that will let us know that the time has come to move forward, or not. While comfort with fear is a contradiction in terms, we can learn to honor our fear, recognizing its arrival, listening to its intelligence, and respecting it as a harbinger of transformation. Indeed, it informs us that the change we are contemplating is significant, enabling us to approach it with the proper reverence. You might wish to converse with your fear, plumbing its depths for a greater understanding of the change you are making. You could do this by sitting quietly in meditation and listening or by journaling. Writing down whatever comes up-your worries, your sadness, your excitement, your hopes-is a great way to learn about yourself through the vehicle of fear and to remember that fear almost always comes alongside anything worth doing in your life.

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Power Of Honesty

2006-11-17T12:03:00.000+03:00

Staying True To Your Word ...
Promises are easily made. Keeping them often proves more difficult because when we are pressured to strive always for perfection, we find it simpler to agree to undertake impossible tasks than to say no. Likewise, there is an infinite array of circumstances that conspire to goad us into telling falsehoods, even when we hold a great reverence for truth. When you endeavor to consistently keep your word, however, you protect your reputation and promote yourself as someone who can be trusted to be unfailingly truthful. Though your honesty may not always endear you to others-for there will always be those who fear the truth-you can nonetheless be certain that your integrity is never tarnished by the patina of deceit. Since frankness and sincerity form the basis of all life-enriching relationships, your word is one of your most precious and powerful possessions. When we promise more than we can deliver, hide from the consequences of our actions through falsehoods, or deny our true selves to others, we hurt those who were counting on us by proving that their faith was wrongly given. We are also hurt by the lies we tell and the promises we break. Integrity is the foundation of civilization, allowing people to live, work, and play side by side without fear or apprehension. As you cultivate honesty within yourself, you will find that your honor and reliability put people at ease. Others will feel comfortable seeking out your friendship and collaborating with you on projects of great importance, certain that their positive expectations will be met. If you do catch yourself in a lie, ask yourself what you wanted to hide and why you felt you couldn't be truthful. And if life's surprises prevent you from keeping your word, simply admit your error apologetically and make amends quickly. Since the path of truth frequently represents the more difficult journey, embarking upon it builds character. You can harness the power of your word when you do your best to live a life of honesty and understand what motivates dishonesty. In keeping your agreements and embodying sincerity, you prove that you are worthy of trust and perceive values as something to be incorporated into your daily existence.

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Having Not Having ( Lack )

2006-11-17T12:01:00.000+03:00

We all know what it feels like to want something we don't have. It may be a pair of expensive jeans, a romantic partner, or rent money; it may be a certain attitude, a car, or a savings account. This is part of life, and in the best-case scenario, we experience a constant flow of money, companions and experiences, in and out of our lives. However, many of us linger in a state of wanting and not having, a state of lack that never seems to subside. We consistently perceive ourselves as not having what we need or not having what we want. This is an energetically draining state to be in. It is also self-perpetuating because how we feel about ourselves determines what we are able to create for ourselves. How we feel profoundly influences how we perceive our reality. When we feel we are lacking, we look around and see what is not there. On the other hand, if we feel abundant, we can look at the very same situation and see a completely different picture, one full of blessings and advantages. The more we see the blessings, the more abundant we feel, and the more blessings we attract. Similarly, if we see lack, we tend to create and attract that energy. If you find yourself habitually residing in a feeling of lack, it may be due to a core belief formed in your childhood or even in a past life. It may be because you are out of touch with your inner divinity, which is the source of your abundance. In any case, know that your perception of lack is a misperception that can be corrected with awareness and effort. It can be as simple as taking 10 or 15 minutes each day to quiet your mind and imagine yourself in a state of unlimited abundance, handling the financial demands and others in your life with total ease, drawing from an endless supply of resources. Know that it is your birthright to be fully supported in the fulfillment of your needs and desires.

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Success Stories after watching" The Secret"

2006-11-15T12:06:00.000+03:00